Managing expectations is a key aspect of living a happy, fulfilled life. It is also an important part of lifestyle design. The second aspect of managing expectations is being able to fully convey the same ideas clearly to those around you including your spouse, family, children and coworkers. Have you ever done something really awesome but still felt a little let down because of extremely high expectations? Have you ever had an experience exceed your expectations? That is a great feeling. Do you typically find that your experiences exceed your expectations or fall short? How much of that is external and how much is internal?
My wife and I grew up in a suburban or semi-suburban area. I grew up with the notion that if I wanted to go somewhere (aside from my next door neighbor’s house) that I needed to ask my parents to drive me there. When my siblings got older they became the defacto shuttle service. And honestly, in my hometown, this is pretty much the typical, normal lifestyle. My wife grew up in super-suburbia. Literally, the movie The Joneses was filmed a few blocks from where she was raised. There were more Targets than poor people and even the neighborhood tennis courts and pools were a short drive away. My life was a little older, smaller town version of a relaxed neighborhood with big yards, average houses and lots of kids. I think we both grew up in the idealized post WWII portrait of the ‘American Dream’. Continue reading An Urban Life With Suburban Expectations